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You Will Never Forget This by ~sonomacoast:iconsonomacoast:



I work at a place where all residents are wealthy, all needs are taken care of, and the place is beatifully decorated. "Assisted living" it's called. The area is safe and the land is being bought up everyday, dissapearing to massive homes built on rolling hills.

But nobody is happy. Nobody wants to live in this place.

They all smile, they all talk, laugh... but it's all a charade, the mask of living a life which has no meaning. Wrinkles in which the world struggles to abolish are all over... around their eyes, in their cheeks, and covering their hands, they take over the person. They become the grandma they used to remember.

Many are deaf, in walkers, wheelchairs... handicapped.

A man came in tonight, sitting with his wife Henrietta. She had just had a stroke, so he had to struggle to tell her the menu. He got up just to help her, with a profound patience one does not usually see. After the dinner, he gets her food wrapped and pushes her out in the wheelchair.

Others, arriving for dinner, gather around her.
"You look prettier every day Henrietta!" - A friendly acquantaince says to her, loudly with a smile.
Her husband proudly agrees, and even though her world is abstract and gargled, and even though her eyes only tell of confusion, he still has an obvious love and respect for this woman. He takes care of her every need, and when he says her name you can hear just how much he appreciates her- even when she's only 10% there.

Even though there's such proof of true love, and even though these people are well off, I always leave depressed. These people live forgotten to the world, waiting to be forgotten by time. They're examples of what we're to become- examples of something that nobody wants to see or believe.

I leave their homes, 8 o'clock and there's a total silence all around. I wait outside, sitting on the white intricately designed bench underneath the overhang, in a dim light against the darkness of night. There I sit alone, focusing in and out of the new memories I'm to always remember. The way he looked at her and could remember all she used to be, and how that image could replace the old disentigrating woman sitting in front of him.

Value your youth and health, but never forget what your fate will be.

Alzheimmers- Strokes- Diabetes- Athritis- Cancer-
the list will always go on.


Don't ever forget that it can all happen to you.

And to some of you, that it will happen to you.
©2003-2009 ~sonomacoast
:iconsonomacoast:

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It's all true, for once. Every single part. Even the name... haha.

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:icondragonorion:
This has got to be by far, my favorite piece you've ever written.
Not to downplay your poetry, which is phenominal; but the emotion in this is incredible... it makes me want to cry.

My parents will never be put in a nursing home.

Mr. Ho (whom you may or may not have read about in my journal) is a good Vietnamese friend of mine. He is almost alone now, his wife gone, and only his daughter takes care of him. But this is Vietnamese tradition. The young respect the old so much, that no matter how much they may like or dislike them, they feel it a duty to take care of them to no end. His daughter is well off, but her job is taxing and often she comes home quite weary. And yet, before entering her father's house, she dons a smile, cooks him dinner, and makes sure he is happy.

I want my parents to have the same... even though this time is a long way off.

:hug: thanks so much. :hug: I hope you're feeling better...

~Orion
:iconireni:
That is quite nice, snomoacoast. It has inspired me to submit a piece that I had written as a greater segment than the one written.

I think I might even write a piece about living fast and dying young. Oh well, it might never see the light of submission on DevArt. But hey, at least it was a thought, right?
:iconsweetkitten:
Nicely done. Having gone through this myself (my grandmother had advanced alzheimer's and had to be put in a nursing home), I have to point out in response to dragonorion that sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to put them in a place that has better care than you can ever give them. Despite the fact that most likely, no one wants to go into a home, there's sometimes precious little you can do in your own house. You just can't possibly have the resources and experience that doctor's have.

Back on the subject of this prose, you've captured the feelings and ambience nicely. My mom now works in the same nursing home my grandmother was in. The look that Henrietta's husband shows in this writing... you see that all the time. It's hard, to loose someone close to you, even if they're still alive and in front of you, somehow, they're not really there.
:icontararaoukowen:
Wow, that is so powerful and so good. By the end I really did feel like I wanted to cry. The emotions in this flow so well, everything is so strong. Very well written. I was thinking about something more or less along the same lines as this the other day. It is sad that people are put into homes. Some are forgotten by friends and family. Many times friends die. Family visits become fewer and far between... It really must be terrible to be put into a situatuion liek that, as if you were thrown away and forgoteen. Many senior citizens are treated like old toys, played with until broken or the novelty has worn off. I can't imagine puttting a loved one into a home like that, it would feel too much like I was throwing them away and leaving them behind. My grandma is about 75 (?) and she lives alone. She still drives so she refuses to go into a home. I feel so bad, she lives hundreds of miles away from her family and children. My grandfather died and she was forced to move out of the house they bought when they first were married. I know there are so many memories left in her mind of lost friends, small children and times long past... I wish I could visit her often but she's in another state. I think I'll write her a letter. Fanbulous work, honestly truly beautiful. Thanks for giving me something to thjink about (and then waste space rambling on and on).
:iconsonomacoast:
thank you for the comment! haha rambling is fine with me :) yeah my grandma lives in a different state too, it's really hard to keep in touch :( haha aw that's a nice idea to write her a letter! i know what you mean with childhood memories and friends and stuff, mine reads the obituaries and always sees people she knew or knows. gah i need to stop being depressing and write happy things lol
:icontararaoukowen:
I said I was going to write her a letter, but we have no stamps.. I feel bad about it, I need to go to walmart and buy some. it's hard to stay in touch with people so far away, you never really know whats going on with them... *thinks about something completely different* lol nevermind. i do miss living close to my grandoarents though, we used to go visit every other weekend and eat breakfast and stuff but now we moved away. I can't imagine what it feels like to watch your friends and family die like that, it must be horrible. i should be thinking happy too, but alas, i am not in a good mood so i'll just keep my unhappy thoughts and dress them up to look happy. now where can i find faux moustaches to fit emotions?
:icongreendragon:
this is a wonderful piece. it really is you should be very proud : i especially like: These people live forgotten to the world, waiting to be forgotten by time., that was great. its a horrible point, the conclusion, but its very very (unhappily) true :) wonderful work
:iconsonomacoast:
aw :( why are you in a bad mood? haha yeah i do the same thing when i am too, dress thoughts up to look happy... *brain starts to slow down and lose all thoughts* just got back from the retirement home a little bit ago so i'm out of it.
hm and why did you move? letters are a good idea, i hate the phone.. well letters can be kind of tough too, usually my mind goes blank. hmm im off to write you a note back :)
:icontararaoukowen:
I was in a bad mood for several looong reasons but I'm in a better mood now so it's all gravy. Turkey in fact. I hate not acting how I feel but then people get involved and everythig gets complicated and balh... lol could that be an vaguer? I wonder if vaguer is a word. so are you working at blockbuster and the retirement home? busy you. i moved because my stepdad got a job in st. louis that seemed like a good idea at the time. im not much of a phone person, i always run out of things to say. at least when you wrote letters you can put it down and pick it back up again later. now i'm off to look at your note :) lots of notes and comments between us, even notice?

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